How To Clear Your Mind From Toxic Emotions – 3 Phases to Clarity and Peace

Dear Reader, have you ever been caught up in a pattern of thoughts that burst with negativity and bring your mind to the point of boiling with confusion? And the interesting thing is that the more you want to let go of these thoughts and the more you want to find peace and happiness, these negative thoughts which generate negative feelings seem to persist.

Let us go together through the three phases that lead the way toward clearing your mind from toxic emotions and reaching a state of joy and equanimity.beautiful-16736_640

Phase One begins with becoming aware and accepting your negative emotions. You need to feel the power of these negative emotions and how they move throughout your body and how they fill your head to the point of making you go crazy! Visualize how these negative emotions impact your state of being and become aware of the thoughts that go through your head during this turmoil. If it helps you, please write down the negative thoughts you are having and what fears come to mind. Understand and say to yourself that these negative thoughts and emotions are doing you a great deal of harm and they are not helping you to find a creative solution to your problem.poland-394132_640

Phase Two is an invitation to shift your energy by engaging in a totally opposite activity or doing something that is completely unrelated to your problem and the root cause of your negativity. This might include the following activities: going out for a walk, listening to music that makes you feel good, or simply doing something that has no correlation to your problem. This energy shift will bring you in the present moment and you will begin to experience the nature of your true self. Your true self is a state of being where there is nothing else but love, joy, giggles and positivity. The results or the qualities of your true nature might not come very fast and even if they do, they might not last for very long because of the tendency to go back to your habitual way of negative thinking. Nevertheless, setting this intention and actively participating in the creation of your new state of being will surely lead you on the right path toward elimination of your negativity.

Phase Three begins when you begin asking yourself following questions:

  • What would someone who loves me do in this situation?
  • How would this someone who means me well advise me?
  • What alternatives, actionable strategies and possible scenarios open up for me?
  • What is one good thing that came out of this negative experience?
  • What did I learn and what is my take-away for the future?

Now write down the answers to these questions in your journal. You will notice that these answers provide a new model for viewing the negative situation. With the help of this new model you can see that there is choice that can be made on your part that will correct the negative event, action or feelings and lead you toward positive, creative and productive experiences.notebook-1194456_640

So here is a challenge for you:

  1. Observe your negative thoughts which are triggered in some circumstances or events. Feel their energy and live through them.
  2. Let me know which activity helped you physically move away from the negative thinking pattern.
  3. What did you learn from this negativity?
  4. What are two-three possible solutions to the situation that triggers your negativity?

Join me and others in the discussion in the comment thread below. Leave your comments, insights and challenges and allow me and the group to interact with your challenge!

Much Love and Many Blessings!

Ginger Spark

 

 

 

24 Comments

  1. Miles

    Your website is well thought out. Three things really stand out for me: easy sign-in for free seminar; “pharmacy” for mental healing; and easy sign-in for video series.

    I also like the uplifting image and who cannot benefit from encouragement to clear our mind from toxic emotions!

    Reviewing websites provides me with a great opportunity to learn two things: about the topic and ideas to enhance my website.

    On both counts, you have succeeded! One more question…how would you define a toxic relationship?

    Miles

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Hi Miles, thank you for your comment and question about the definition of toxic relationship.

      Here are some characteristics of a toxic relationship:

      1. partners stay together only because of the fear of being left alone. there is over-attachment and neediness.

      2. in a toxic relationship, there is no growth or improvement; it is impossible to say no without consequence or draw healthy boundaries. We refrain from telling our truth, because we feel that other people might be offended or repelled.

      3. partners have different visions in life and by staying together, they simply avoid facing reality and favor stagnation.

      4. in a toxic relationship we tend to present ourselves as victims, and we seek approval of our victimized point of view from others.

      I hope I was able to bring some clarity in defining a toxic relationship. I would love to hear from you again. Feel free to comment on my next blog posts!

      Many Thanks,

      Ginger

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  2. jeffrey16201

    You have a truly amazing website with such unique information, everyone does need to improve themselves in many ways and learn to cope better with emotional toxic problems.

    what is your thoughts on relaxation techniques, do you think they are enough to relax your mind and ease a person’s stress?

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Dear Jeffrey, thank you for your comment. In my opinion, relaxation techniques such as yoga, chi-gong and meditation are enough to relax your mind and bring in stillness in your thoughts. This stillness of thoughts brings you back to your true self, where you can draw insight, intuition and creativity from the infinite field of potential which surrounds us. I would love to hear from you again, your questions and comments are always welcome! With Love, Ginger

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  3. Joy Weber

    Hi Ginger, Your website picture is very pretty. Your content was interesting. I read a book in college by that same name. I like the way you called for action. I would suggest that you check your spelling, though. You might want to use Grammarly. It is free and helps with spelling and grammar.

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Thank you, Joy! I will check my spelling immediately! I must admit I do rush when I write…I will correct this now! Keep coming back to my website! I would love to hear from you again and feel free to ask any question that occupies your thoughts at this moment. Lots of Love, Ginger

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  4. Jillian

    Nice article. I agree with you about getting rid of toxic emotions. I think to do this weekend have to learn how to control the things we think about and try to always see the positive side of things. Sometimes a nice walk is all you need to refresh your mind and spirit.

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Jillian, thank you so much for your comment. I agree that a walk in nature is the perfect thing to undertake when we want to get rid of toxic emotions. Lots of Love, Ginger

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    2. Aundre

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      1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

        Hi Aundre, great to hear that! Do come back to check out things more often. Please feel free to share with your friends, family and colleagues, LoL, Ginger.

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  5. Joon

    I do exact same thing as you have mentioned in the first step. I don’t deny my negative thoughts or negative situations. I just accept it as it is and just let it be. I just know that it’s the nature of human mind and the nature of lives to go through both ups and downs. By accepting these, no longer I am pushing it away. If you try to deny and push it away, more negativity will bite on to its tails and accumulate. But if you let it be, just like stream of water, they just come and go.

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Dear Joon, I am so happy to hear you say this, that this is the way you deal with negative thoughts and situations and that this truly helps. Thank you for your smart comment. Ginger.

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    2. Jonetta

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      1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

        Hi Jonetta, thank you. do come back again and feel free to share. Thanks! Ginger

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  6. Spencer

    As i read this post, i couldn’t help myself but to follow the steps and clear my head. This is similar to a technique i use to meditate and reflect on life. Thank you for your post that helped me unravel and relax. I believe self awareness is something that can get away from most of us and needs to be taken back into account every once and awhile.

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Hi Spencer! Thank you for your comment and I am glad I could remind you of something that does really work. Make it your intention to welcome mindful awareness everytime a life-challenge or a toxic situation arises. It might be difficult and unusual at the beginning, but the more you do it, the more that you will get into the habit of doing it. Lots of Love, Ginger.

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  7. Lynn

    Great article!
    I have never read an article as accurate as this! The Phases that is mentioned here is really what i have experienced! Your challenges seems interesting so I am definitely trying this one out in the next few days and see if there are any changes in these negative thoughts!

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Hi Lynn, thank you for your comment. If you feel more comfortable, I invite you to drop me an e-mail at ginger@gingerspark.org and let me know which activity helped you resolve your negative thinking pattern and what creative solutions surfaced in your mind? I am also happy to answer any question you might have. With love, Ginger.

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  8. Joon

    What I have been practicing recently is very similar to what is discussed here. Most of my negative mindset and frustration came from impatience and under appreciating little efforts I took. I was very impatient when there were no progress made in my pursuits and I’d put a lot of pressure on myself which lead to stress. And even if there were some progress that were made and I worked very hard at it, I was under appreciating or under valuing these. For a long time I knew, I had to change my ways to make it easier on myself and enjoy the journey.
    So I started consciously put effort to value every little attempts that I took and praise my for it relentlessly. I’ve been doing this everyday for a couple of weeks now. I’ll write how well I’ve done and how amazing that I am for doing all these opposed to how I used to always think “well you gotta do more” “you gotta make it happen quick” “Why is it not happening yet” “you still got a long way to go” and etc.
    Now I am more able to pick out whenever this negative thoughts come and replace it with positive mindset I’ve been practicing.
    This has been so much easier on my soul and I actually started having fun with the process more instead of looking at it like it’s a job or a big task.

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Hi Joon, thank you for your detailed comment. I see that you have reflected upon so many things that are of vital importance. And Yes! This is so true. Just keep on giving yourself reassurance and approval for the work done and results will automatically follow. Being grateful for the progress you have made and giving yourself support, encouragement and recognition is the perfect way to move forward! I stand with you and for you! Lots of Love, do keep in touch! Ginger

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  9. Jacob

    Hi, nice website there. Really enjoy this artice you provided. The part you mentioned about being aware of yourself; mindfulness, is particularly important in my opinion. You mentioned we can apply these techniques when we are feeling emotionally troubled. Can we still apply these methods when we are not? Or can we apply meditation? Because I feel if we can learn to observe our feelings when we are not emotional. There is a higher chance we can learn to be mindful when the emotions come.

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Hey there, Jacob, what a great question! Applying these methods when we are self-centered and in control is equally powerful. Life always happens, and we do not know when a negative feeling might arise. The important point to remember is that as soon as a negative feeling occurs in our bodies we can feel its energy and allow it to be there for not more than 15 seconds. Our intention is to shift our focus as quickly as possible to positivity and release the negative emotion without a great deal of rationalizing. Applying the methodology of clearing the toxic emotion in a state when we are calm and relaxed is especially powerful because it is then that we can craft a strategy for dealing with them. In this state, begin asking yourself questions like these: “‘What do I need to learn and understand here?””Are things really that bad and serious?””I will figure this out.” During times when you are relaxed, turn your attention to things that you want and allow the universal energy to guide you. Thank you for your comment and I hope to hear from you again! LoL, Ginger.

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  10. Patrick

    Hello Ginger, such a wonderful post to read. Negativity seems to permeate our reality and with that comes the heavy weight of unwanted emotional energy. I agree completely that without focusing inward, identifying the emotion you are feeling and accepting it fully the process is going nowhere. Self compassion would play a gigantic roll here i think, especially using the techniques you described. Thank you for this info i enjoyed it immensely.

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    1. Ginger Spark (Post author)

      Hi Patrick, I am so glad you found this post useful and left your constructive comment. I would love to have you back on my website soon! 🙂 Ginger

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